Shaming

Shame is a godly motivator. A virtuous life shames the ungodly, providing a context for evangelism (Titus 2:8; 1 Peter 3:16). A believer's shame for past sin is a spur to forsake sinning (Rom 6:21), to renounce disobedience (2 Thess 3:14)(Baker's Evangelical Dictionaryof Biblical Theology )
The shame we feel from our own guilt and shortcomings leads us to becoming more like Christ.
But... What about
"v. shamed, shaming
To cause to feel shame; put to shame.
To bring dishonor or disgrace on
Synonyms:
abhorrence, anathema, aversion, bother, curse, detestation, disgust, evil, hate, hatred, horror, loathing, nuisance, plague, repugnance, repulsion, revulsion, shame, torment, wickedness"
Source:
Roget's New Millennium™ Thesaurus, First Edition (v 1.2.1)Copyright © 2006 by Lexico Publishing Group, LLC. All rights reserved.
This verb that talks about how we effect others or try to put shame on them is the one that has caused me the most difficulty. I others I suspect

Strong 2627
kataqemativzw
Transliterated Word
Kataischuno
kat-ahee-skhoo'-no
Verb
Definition
to dishonour, disgrace
to put to shame, make ashamed
to be ashamed, blush with shame
one is said to be put to shame who suffers a repulse, or whom some hope has deceived
The KJV New Testament Greek Lexicon
This is used mostly in the New Testament to tell us what not be ashamed of, like Christ.
So why do we judge so much and shame others when they don't live up to our expections of what a "Christian is supposed to be"? ...